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5 Tips to Achieve Better Sex in a Relationship


In this post 5 Tips to Achieve Better Sex in a Relationship, I’ll list 5 tips that can be helpful in developing and sustaining a good sexual relationship between husband and wife, applying these tips can develop love, happiness, support, and friendship.

Having active sex is crucial to a healthy loving relationship.  It is perhaps the most important part of our lives, especially for married couples, no other relationship problem causes as much distress than the lack of sex in a stable relationship.

Remember – “Sex in a relationship is … perfectly natural, it is a way for two people to develop a deep bond which does not exist in any other relationship, outside of marriage. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So try to learn as much as you can about it and become comfortable with how you want to give pleasure to your wife or husband and in return what you would like from them too?”


Communicate and explore

Start with teasing yourself — and then turn to your partner. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other’s bodies. If you’re the one doing the touching and teasing, concentrate on communicating love and sensuality to your partner. On the other hand, if you’re on the receiving end – lucky times, let yourself feel the sensations of each and every stroke, relax and play the game.  Do not bring up difficult topics, or start playing with your mobile.  Focus and remain in the moment, giving your partner 100% attention. This will help you reconnect with each other on a whole new level.

As you progress with communicating and exploring, by the time you’re done, you’ll be so excited you’ll barely be able to stand it, without going all the way. Hold off (if you can!) for a night or two, to let the anticipation build. When individuals feel recognized as special and appreciated, they’re happier in that relationship and much more motivated to make the relationship better, happier and stronger.

Go-on make small gestures that show you’re paying attention: hold hands, Hug, kiss, buy a gift, say I love you…


Have sex in style 

Sign of a good relationship between couples is a good sex life where both partners are gratified.  Sex is on the agenda regularly and as often as possible.  Having sex isn’t just about the big “O” orgasms. It’s about experiencing the intimacy, sensation, stress relief, improved health and increased emotional bonding with your partner.  I would advise making time for each other for love, for pleasuring one another.

Studies done on this topic have found that the leading predictor of a woman’s marital happiness was the level of her husband’s emotional engagement. If you two are spending quality time together, you’re likely to be happier. But when you’re feeling disconnected with little or no sex, your relationship and your sex life suffer.  Here’s why: because men and women are wired differently, a woman needs to feel close to him to be motivated to make love, and the man often needs sex to feel close to her. If you’re the man in a relationship take the initiative and engage in starting with flirting, teasing, foreplay and then dive into the deep end.

If you’re the woman then make the first move, says – do something simple like thanking him for taking out the trash, give him a hug, kiss him goodbye in the morning or better still send him and dirty text during the day. When you give him a little gratitude, show him you want him, it’s a huge bonding moment for him. In response, he’ll start firing all cylinders to give you what you need, and you’ll both be much more likely to want each other in return.


Talk about sex. To have more orgasms 

Talk and talk more about what gives you more satisfaction during sex.  Generally, men nearly always have an orgasm during sex, unless he happens to be a multi-orgasmic man.  Even though they have orgasms the most, men still report greater sexual satisfaction if they talk about the details of sex with their partners.

Women on the other hand report that they don’t orgasm as much as they would like – lesson if you’re a man reading this, focus on how you can give her the orgasm, but women do say that they have orgasms more often where relationship discussions specifically focus on talking about sexual nature between the two.


Exercise – The secret to the best sex ever 

Just as you were turning off from exercise, here’s another reason why you shouldn’t consider this: Working out is a great way to boost your sex life.  Physical activity stimulates the body, the nervous system, and the brain. Leaving you more physiologically excited and more receptive to sex-positive side effects! Exercise strengthens your cardiovascular system, improves circulation, and gets the blood flowing to all the right places – men need it to maintain the required strength and stamina.

It also gets you in the mood by reducing stress and boosting your self-esteem. Working out gives you a sense of energy, pride, and accomplishment. When you do it consistently, it makes you feel good about yourself and therefore that


Best herbal supplements for better sex 

By now you have realized that sex is important in cultivating a healthy loving relationship.  But you still have a problem, that is when you try – communicate and explore for improving sex, having sex in style, you’ve talked about sex and have done exercising none of that gives you the “oomph”.  What more can you do to achieve better sex in your relationship?

Luckily there are tried and tested herbal remedies that can pick you up and get that blood circulating to the right places, realizing the right neurotransmitters and chemicals to rev-up your sexual engine.  Listed below are 3 highly recommended herbal remedies that can help both male and females.

Note these are herbal remedies so no immediate fix but taken over time they have been shown to produce good results.  Also, do not take these herbal remedies without speaking to your doctor if you already have a medical condition or worried about any side effects.

 Let’s start with 3 of Top Sex and mood enhancing natural herbs:

(1) Sex and health benefits of Tongkat Ali

Tongkat Ali is a great supplement for men and women, highly underrated and infrequently used for benefits outside of natural male enhancement and sexual performance. An ancient herb used for centuries with many incredible benefits and minimal adverse recorded side effects.

Taking Tongkat Ali increases your TESTOSTERONE LEVELS.

The use of Tongkat Ali extract can increase levels of testosterone in the body. Without going into too much detail – a subject for another post in the future.  Tongkat Ali supplements can lead to harder erections, reduced refractory periods (the time between sexual activity ending and being able to resume sexual activity again, in which sustained erections are achieved), higher libido, larger quantities of sperm presence, and ejaculatory power increases, Tongkat Ali is that magical tonic men have been searching for.

Ladies can also benefit from Tongkat Ali, supplementing in reduced amounts it can help in boosting women’s energy, mood, motivation, strength, and sex drive.


(2) Sex and other health benefits of Damiana

The second of the wonder herbal sex tonics is Damiana, Generally, it is used mostly to increase sexual desire as an aphrodisiac. Damiana can also be used to treat headaches, bedwetting, depression, nervous stomach and constipation.  Along with the above, it is used for the prevention and treatment of sexual problems, boosting and maintaining mental and physical stamina.

Think for a moment, when you are making love how much stamina do you need, now imagine if an herbal remedy can help you in increasing your sexual desire and stamina – what would that do to your sexual relationship?

It can be taken as powder supplements or as capsule form.  As mentioned above you will need to take a for a period of time to notice improvements.


(3) Maca – wonder treatment for sexual performance

This is another herbal sex tonic that is on the top of my list, Maca – as it is known has been linked to higher libido. Research suggests that maca has the ability to modestly boost your libido. After eight weeks of supplementing with Maca, the guys taking maca saw an increase in their sexual desire compared to the placebo group.

Maca is a root vegetable, high in antioxidants and many nutrients like vitamin C, copper and iron. It has been used for thousands of years and has been shown to enhance sexual health, erection quality, improve energy, mood, and memory it also balances hormone levels.

Good for both men and women, taken as capsule supplements or if you’re lucky you can buy it raw to eat as a vegetable. 


Relationships need to be nurtured, showing appreciation is the beginning, improving the quality of your lovemaking and sexual passion is crucial to maintaining and further developing love between the two. Increasing the quality of your relationship will take time, make time and continue to develop on the quality of that time together. Learn to please each other sexually as well as mentally.

  • Be intimate where and when possible with each other
  • Have sex and give each other priority when it comes to sexual pleasure.

About Niki Adams

Niki Adams is a confident fitness and health blogger. A former business director for a well-known Company, she now teaches people how to live the life they imagined by tuning into their authentic power and unlocking the confidence to ask for what they really, really want. Health and fitness starts with what you eat and how you train your mind.

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